Shared Custody Is A Crock Of BS

So I have a friend who is a mother to 2 children. She was working & she was paying the baby sitter & @ first her & the father was suppose to share the babysitting expense which he never did fork over the money. The baby sitter ended up quitting on her & I am uncertain of the circumstances for that but the father should of been paying half not making up excuses to not pay. He is a truck driver so it is not like he could not afford it. I know this for a fact because my kids father is also a truck driver @ the same company. He also was not giving her child support as well. Then the courts told her to pay the babysitter because she could claim it on her taxes. So my friend ended up quitting her job because of all the stress & BS that was going on with her & the kids father.

Then they went back to court. So now the courts state that she is to be the baby sitter when it is suppose to be his time with the kids. WTF is that. Yes she gets the kids more but he is playing it to the max. They are suppose to have one week with him one week with her & swap the Thursdays plus she has the kids when he is working. So she has to meet him in the morning & get the kids. Get one off to school & her little girl all day then drop them off to him when he is done work. Then on a week that he was suppose to have them he told her he had to work so she had them on his week as well.WTF!

That is "NOT SHARED CUSTODY". He is getting off scott free! Don't get me wrong I have nothing against him personally. I do not know him well enough to not like him but I do know that I don't like how my friend is getting screwed. This is not right @ all. Now what else is wrong with this situation is the grandmother will not allow the mother to drop the kids @ her house & the grandmother & the father has called the police on the mother trying to get her in trouble & I herd this on my police scanner & I find it disgusting. And again I have nothing against the grandmother but what has been going on is disgusting & the kids are seeing this &  also @ the grandmothers house they had called the social services trying to get the mother in trouble. I am just going to say that is wrong in so many ways & I know it is none of my business but it still pisses me off. That type of stuff is only hurting the kids. I have to wonder how could a parent or family member could do that to the kids out of spite because I tell you now they had no valid reason to do that. I know the mother & she is a fit mother & loves her kids.

What is wrong with peoples heads. When people separate & get divorced it is because things are not working in the relationship. One parent or the other is not suppose to try to control & make the other parent miserable just because they are angry. Not suppose to bring family members or friends to the court to try to taunt the other person by laughing or what ever. Bringing the ex of the mother new boyfriend to court with you I will say it again WTF. This nothing but a bunch of head games on the fathers part. The ex of the mother new boyfriend I know her from when she lived by me & I like her. She has never did nothing wrong to me & our kids played together & I wish her all the best but come on this is not right & it is no way to move on. It is not healthy behavior for the parents or the kids.

These little game & accusations phone calls trying to make each other miserable etc are not helping the situation @ all. Not helping the kids.

I have said it time & time again. Get along for the kids sake. Do not talk bad about the other parent in front of the kids. Do not make up lies about the other parent. Do not try to make the other parents life a living hell. Do not phone social services & have them talk to the kids based on accusations  lies or for purposes of sticking it to the other parent. If you can't get along with the other parent @ least be civil to one another for the kids sake. If you can't do this then you do not deserve your children & you can consider your self as a bad parent.

These opinions are my own which I made from viewing the situation. This bugs me that this crap goes on & that it is the kids that are getting hurt in the end. It is time to move on! Quote from my friend: "Turn you hate against the other parent into love for the kids"!
So I googled what my friend said & I came up with this interesting read. Why you need to love your kids more than you hate your ex

I forgot to mention one night I was up late waiting for my oldest boy to come home & just happened to look out the window & see some one creeping by my friends driveway. So first thing that comes to mind that someone is trying to break into my neighbors house. He was acting suspicious looking back & forth. Saw the person drop something & pick it up quickly. He ran down the road.  So well the police were called & then I went out side because I am nosy. Then I seen car lights & he drove up past my house & up the road. Well I am 99% sure that it was my friends ex because of the car but I did tell the police that I could not be totally sure because my kids father works with him & I didn't want to get in the middle I hate confrontation. So here is a little more advice: Don't be creeping outside of you ex's  house. First of all you neighbors will think that some one is trying to break into someone house & call the cops on you, Second you are making yourself look like a desperate idiot.