More Replies to my mother comments to her post!

I will do as I see fit to deal with liars like you. I don't feel one bit sorry for you because all you are is a fucking liar & I hate liars! I have no respect for you at all. You are a idiot. This is a blog not a book & I dare you to try to publish any lies about me or my father because I will so sue your ass for every thing you own you crazy bitch!
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You are a fucking liar & I do not have to stay off your blog. It is a public blog & I am the public. My father never did any thing to me but you & Terry abused me physically, emotionally & mentally. You lie about my dad & me so I don't believe any of the other sit you have posted either. Dr Snow probably never even touched you either! I know when you asked me if he touched me you wanted me to say yes so that you could of sued him for more money! But he never touched me & he probably never touched you either because you are a liar!

Also you have no right to call your self a "MOTHER"...lol What a joke! You don't know the first thing about being a mother! I don't have a mother!

More twisted lies from you...If I had any anger issues it is because I had to have a mother like you that let her boyfriend beat me all the time with a belt! This is why I do not speak to you! All the lies you say. This is why I will never speak to you again no mater what the circumstances are! I am far better off with no mother! If you thought any thing of your children you would not make up lies about them to get back @ their fathers! I love my dad but I can not say the same thing to you! I have NO MOTHER!
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Telegraph Journal Monday, September 3, 2012

Man declines to make plea on driving while suspended

LAURA MACINNIS KINGS COUNTY RECORD

HAMPTON - Thomas Frederick Crowe is accused of driving while prohibited four times in less than one month.
The 32-year-old Saint John man appeared in Hampton Provincial Court Tuesday but refused to make pleas. "I wanted everything stated here to be on public record;' he said before telling the court an officer threatened him into coming to court.
Tonning explained the court is a place of public record and also told the accused that if he was ordered to come to court, he is required to appear.
In all there are four charges against Crowe between District 3 RCMP and Rothesay Regional Police: driving while suspended in Kings County on July 13 and July 26, twice on Aug. 1, and an indictable charge of driving while prohibited on Aug. 5 in Kingston.
But as Tonning asked him for pleas, he balked at the question."There is no plea, because there is no case;' Crowe said. judge Henrik Tonning said if he refused to make a plea, he would have to enter a not guilty plea for him.
"I object to that;' Crowe said.
"You can object all you like;' Tonning responded, but told him if he claims the Crown has no case, that is the equivalent of a not guilty plea.
He then warned Crowe that if he was stopped for driving while suspended again, the police would most likely take him into custody. Crowe responded by telling them he doesn't drive a commercial vehicle, and Tonning said he was unclear on what that had to do with the charges before the court.
"I don't care what vehicle you have. You can ride a horse, but you won't get behind the wheel until you get your licence back;'the judge said.
Duty counsel Carley Parish indicated Crowe did not wish to speak to her before his appearance. He set the trial dates down for Feb. 14 in Saint John, and Crowe indicated he will most likely represent himself.

Children & Housework Is A Full Time Job In Itself

So I have been going with my friend to drop off her kids where their dad & her meet to prevent him from making more false accusations. Her son is @ camp & it was her week for the kids & the kids go to the dads house on Thursday. But it was just the little girl going where her son is @ camp. She is only 5 & vary attached to her mom witch is normal for her age & where the mom was the main care giver.

So her little girl was fine until the dad got there & then she started taking a fit saying she was not going & @ my house the mom told her that we had to leave soon so that she could drop her off for her dad & that she would be having supper there & she would see her in the morning. The little girl made a comment about not wanting to eat supper there because all her father makes is bacon. I only bring this up because in the court room his letter stated that he made nutritious meals trying to make himself look like a good parent & trying to make my friend look like a bad parent.

This good parent bad parent game is really old & needs to stop.

I can vouch for my friend & say that when I was @ her house when they were still together she made nutritious meals. When she was working she had the roast in the croc cooking & everything all prepared all he had to do was dish it. She also asks the kids what they would like to have. I have found in my experience there is no sense making a meal that the kids do not like & trying to force them to eat it. One of my kids will not eat onions so even thought the rest of us like onions I have to leave them out unless I make him something else. I would never do to my kids what my mothers boyfriend did to me. He forced me to swallow my squash & I keep gagging on it. The squash would come back up & I had to try to force it down with milk. Do not do this to your kids:(

When I use to go to my dads house when I was little he would ask me what I wanted to eat I would say Kraft Dinner. When I was 15 years old I moved in with my dad & when he use to ask me what I wanted to eat I would say Kraft Dinner. He asked me in a annoyed tone aren’t you tired of Kraft Dinner. I of course said “No”. So he maid me Kraft Dinner...lol Till this day I still love & eat Kraft Dinner.

Also @ dads house I use to sneak & eat all the marsh mellows out of the “Lucky Charms” cereal. Sorry dad but I didn't get to have that cereal @ moms house...lol

I am also not saying that I didn't get food I liked @ my moms house because I did. I got different things @ my moms house that I liked like apple crumble, truffle & crepes etc...When I was @ my dads I got other things I liked like Lucky Charms, Kraft Dinner, Donairs, Egg Roles etc...

Well I just can't leave out Grams Baked Beans, Awesome homemade strawberry jam, & grams homemade brown sugar fudge & The best Christmas suppers you could imaging...

Me on the other hand I love bacon. I don't think its too healthy but I love a toasted bacon sandwich with ketup or a BLT. Now maybe my friends little gild doesn't like or is tired of bacon.

So what I am trying to get @ is find out what your kids like don't just stick what ever you want to make in front of there face & expect them to enjoy eating it...Mix it up:) Variety equals happiness. Give them something to look forward to.

My friends kids father also made comments about my letter to the judge where I stating that my friend was the main care giver. In his letter to the judge he was trying to say he was the main caregiver & that how would I know this if my friend was the main care giver.

So I just want to say I think he may have been a bit confused. There is a difference between a caregiver & a provider. A care giver is the one who looks after the kids on a full time basis & looks after the house. That is a full time job in itself. So his comment about my friend never keeping a job since he's known her. I say BULLSHIT. That comment was a insult to any full time caregiver(the parent that stays home & looks after the kids & house). I have had to do this for basically 21 years stay at home & raise the kids & keep house.

If I wanted to take pot shots @ my friends ex like he has done to her with his false accusations I could say that my kids father never had to claim bankruptcy. I could say a good provider would not have to claim bankruptcy he would of worked more. My friends ex is not as perfect as he thinks he is. Even though I have had a family member of my own that had to claim bankruptcy. I am just using this to prove a point because in reality people make mistakes or bad decisions. There is no such thing as a perfect parent. It is all a learning process. Parents should not make up false accusations & take pot shots @ the other parent. This is not helping the kids.

I have had several jobs as well & some I really loved & had to leave because my hours were interfering with my kids & their fathers job & baby sitters are way too expensive. They usually charge too much & it is a waste of your time & gas to even work when you have to pay a baby sitter most of what you make. Then I know with me when I was working when I got home it was also me that had to do the housework, laundry, dishes, look after my kids etc. So that was two jobs or more that I had to do all @ once. Us parents that raise the kids & do all the housework do not get paid for this but that does not make it any less than a job that you would get paid for. It is only now that all my kids are in school I was lucky to find a job that I can work days so that it does not interfere with my kids or their fathers schedule.

This was the same for my friend only her son was in school, her daughter was not. So she had to pay for a full time baby sitter for her daughter & after school care for her son. He did not help her with baby sitting or after school care.

I think it was disgusting how he tried to degrade her. He said other things as well to try to degrade her & make himself look like the good parent. (Good parent bad parent game again.) He is trying to isolate the kids out of their moms life. That to me is not a good parent.

Now back to today. We took her little girl to get picked up by her dad & as soon as she seen him she starts making a fuss saying she is not going just like the last time. The last time I told my friend not to force her out of the car to let him force her out of the car because if by accident she get any scrapes or bruises he would use that as a excuse to phone CPS & make false accusation again.

This time she carried her over to him but her little girl would not let her go & he had to pry her away & the little girl was not having it & she ripped her moms hair out in the process. She was screaming & crying taking a fit & the dad put her in the car seat & went to get in his car. So the little girl got out of her seat & unlocked the door & jumped out so my friend picked her up & the father yells “what the fuck are you doing idiot” & saying that he was going to call the cops that she was near her car...

Well I will tell you him calling the cops with bs is really getting old & him acting that way in front of his daughter isn't helping. My friend told me he said he doesn't know why his little girl is acting this way.

Well first of all she is 5, she is attached to her mom as most kids are attached to their main care giver when they are that young. He with held the kids & they didn't see there mother so that fear is probably in the back of her mind of not seeing mommy again. Maybe she isn't looking forward to the meal routine @ her dads. It could be a number of things. It would not have hurt him to let the his daughter stay with her mom but he is more concerned with himself having control than his daughters feelings.

When I was little I loved going with my dad & if I had wanted to stay @ moms my dad would of not made a fuss. There were lots of time that I didn't go with my dad because I wanted to stay with my friends that lived around my moms house & that was ok because it was what I wanted to do. It was never because I didn't love my dad. I love my dad more than any thing & it helps that he is a good dad & put my feelings first over his pride & he didn't try to control the situation & let me make my own decisions:)

Care about your children's feelings more than your pride. Your job as a parent is not to control or make all your children's decisions. Your job as a parent is to put them first, love them, spend time with them, care & provide for them, keep them safe, guide them, teach them right from wrong. Let your heart guide you to what a parent should be & kick you anger, pride & need to control out the door.

Family Court Today & Guess who I Saw

Well I was @ family court today to give my friend support for the "BS" that her ex is putting her through. Guess who I seen in the parking lot going into the building:( My mother of course! God knows what she is scheming this time. Probably going to try to get more money from my dad. Guess what "Mom" the bank of Dad is "closed". So give it up. When are these parents going to get it together & do what is right for the kids. Are they ever going to see the light of day or are they going to continue to make false accusations putting them selves ahead of the kids. My friend's ex & my mother have something in common, they make false accusation & put them selves first before the kids, & they like to make threats & breach court orders withholding the kids from the loving other parent!

DIVORCE RELATED MALICIOUS PARENT SYNDROME

1. A parent who unjustifiably punishes the divorcing or divorced other parent by:

1. Attempting to alienate their mutual child(ren) from the other parent

2. Involving others in malicious actions against the other parent

3. Engaging in excessive litigation

2. The parent specifically attempts to deny the child(ren):

1. Regular uninterrupted visitation with the other parent

2. Uninhibited telephone access to the other parent

3. Paternal participation in the child(ren)'s school life and extra-curricular activities

3. The pattern is pervasive and includes malicious acts towards the other parent including:

1. Lying to the children

2. Lying to others

3. Violations of law

4. The disorder is not specifically due to another mental disorder although a separate mental disorder may co-exist.

I revamped this because it is not exactly accurate...You do how ever see it happen more often to fathers but it happens to mothers as well...This abuse needs to stop...Actions need to be taken against these parents that are doing this to their children! The only way this is going to happen is if the courts start punishing the alienating parent. Other wise they can share the blame of innocent children being abused due to their neglect.
"You know the old saying you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink". Well that goes the same as if you were to say "You can give a parent a court order but you can make him follow it". The only different is breaching the court order is against the law. These courts need to follow through & punish the parent that is breaching the court order. Throw them in jail & see how they like it & if that doesn't change their tune then throw them in jail again. It works for dogs they call it corrective training.