I was born & raised in Saint John New Brunswick Canada...I could not have asked for a better dad, I wouldn't want any other dad...When I was little I remember my mom telling me that I would want to play with her ornaments & dad would let me & I guess I use to break them accidentally of course...Mom would always tell me how he let me play with them & that I broke them...Her good expensive ornaments... Well in grade one is when things went bad for mom & dad, so dad moved out & no matter what mom said she couldn't make me turn against my dad so it has been 33 years since I was born so I sagest mom stop trying to turn me against my dad because it isn't going to happen...Don't get me wrong mom wasn't all bad there were some good memories but too few... With dad my brother & I came first & with mom well after dad left she went all wired...Instead of being a good mother & just dealing with the break up, getting over it & moving on she had only one thing one her mind & that was to turn my down syndrome brother & I against my dad...This will never work with me & she hates me for that because I will not believe & go along with her lies...Even though she has kidnapped my brothers mind she can not kid nap his heart... I do wish I could have a relationship with my mom but how can I when she lies not only about my dad but about me...Just because I wouldn't go along with her lies she decided to make up some lies about me...What type of mother does that...For the life of me I can not even begin to understand how a mother or parent can do that to a child... When I was a little girl & still even now all I wanted was for my mother to just be a mother...I am sorry that dad leaving you cause you such mental disorder that you can not seem to grasp or hold on to reality...But every thing that comes out of your mouth is hurtful lies & how could you expect me to just stand there & let you do it...You could of had my help now that you going through another separation but lying & manipulating are more important to you than your own children...I can see that in your youngest son you already are brain washing him...It is not right no matter how things ended...If you ever decide to get real help maybe then I will talk to you again but if not then I guess we had our last words already...

Wednesday, 23 March 2011

Shared Custody Is A Crock Of BS

So I have a friend who is a mother to 2 children. She was working & she was paying the baby sitter & @ first her & the father was suppose to share the babysitting expense which he never did fork over the money. The baby sitter ended up quitting on her & I am uncertain of the circumstances for that but the father should of been paying half not making up excuses to not pay. He is a truck driver so it is not like he could not afford it. I know this for a fact because my kids father is also a truck driver @ the same company. He also was not giving her child support as well. Then the courts told her to pay the babysitter because she could claim it on her taxes. So my friend ended up quitting her job because of all the stress & BS that was going on with her & the kids father.

Then they went back to court. So now the courts state that she is to be the baby sitter when it is suppose to be his time with the kids. WTF is that. Yes she gets the kids more but he is playing it to the max. They are suppose to have one week with him one week with her & swap the Thursdays plus she has the kids when he is working. So she has to meet him in the morning & get the kids. Get one off to school & her little girl all day then drop them off to him when he is done work. Then on a week that he was suppose to have them he told her he had to work so she had them on his week as well.WTF!

That is "NOT SHARED CUSTODY". He is getting off scott free! Don't get me wrong I have nothing against him personally. I do not know him well enough to not like him but I do know that I don't like how my friend is getting screwed. This is not right @ all. Now what else is wrong with this situation is the grandmother will not allow the mother to drop the kids @ her house & the grandmother & the father has called the police on the mother trying to get her in trouble & I herd this on my police scanner & I find it disgusting. And again I have nothing against the grandmother but what has been going on is disgusting & the kids are seeing this &  also @ the grandmothers house they had called the social services trying to get the mother in trouble. I am just going to say that is wrong in so many ways & I know it is none of my business but it still pisses me off. That type of stuff is only hurting the kids. I have to wonder how could a parent or family member could do that to the kids out of spite because I tell you now they had no valid reason to do that. I know the mother & she is a fit mother & loves her kids.

What is wrong with peoples heads. When people separate & get divorced it is because things are not working in the relationship. One parent or the other is not suppose to try to control & make the other parent miserable just because they are angry. Not suppose to bring family members or friends to the court to try to taunt the other person by laughing or what ever. Bringing the ex of the mother new boyfriend to court with you I will say it again WTF. This nothing but a bunch of head games on the fathers part. The ex of the mother new boyfriend I know her from when she lived by me & I like her. She has never did nothing wrong to me & our kids played together & I wish her all the best but come on this is not right & it is no way to move on. It is not healthy behavior for the parents or the kids.

These little game & accusations phone calls trying to make each other miserable etc are not helping the situation @ all. Not helping the kids.

I have said it time & time again. Get along for the kids sake. Do not talk bad about the other parent in front of the kids. Do not make up lies about the other parent. Do not try to make the other parents life a living hell. Do not phone social services & have them talk to the kids based on accusations  lies or for purposes of sticking it to the other parent. If you can't get along with the other parent @ least be civil to one another for the kids sake. If you can't do this then you do not deserve your children & you can consider your self as a bad parent.

These opinions are my own which I made from viewing the situation. This bugs me that this crap goes on & that it is the kids that are getting hurt in the end. It is time to move on! Quote from my friend: "Turn you hate against the other parent into love for the kids"!
So I googled what my friend said & I came up with this interesting read. Why you need to love your kids more than you hate your ex

I forgot to mention one night I was up late waiting for my oldest boy to come home & just happened to look out the window & see some one creeping by my friends driveway. So first thing that comes to mind that someone is trying to break into my neighbors house. He was acting suspicious looking back & forth. Saw the person drop something & pick it up quickly. He ran down the road.  So well the police were called & then I went out side because I am nosy. Then I seen car lights & he drove up past my house & up the road. Well I am 99% sure that it was my friends ex because of the car but I did tell the police that I could not be totally sure because my kids father works with him & I didn't want to get in the middle I hate confrontation. So here is a little more advice: Don't be creeping outside of you ex's  house. First of all you neighbors will think that some one is trying to break into someone house & call the cops on you, Second you are making yourself look like a desperate idiot.

1 comment:

kathleen said...

Hi there. I'm a producer at CBC Radio's the Current and we are working on a story about PAS. I am wondering if you would mind contacting me? My email is kathleen.goldhar@cbc.ca. I'd very much like to speak to you about your story and see if you have any interest in telling it to our listeners.

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