I was born & raised in Saint John New Brunswick Canada...I could not have asked for a better dad, I wouldn't want any other dad...When I was little I remember my mom telling me that I would want to play with her ornaments & dad would let me & I guess I use to break them accidentally of course...Mom would always tell me how he let me play with them & that I broke them...Her good expensive ornaments... Well in grade one is when things went bad for mom & dad, so dad moved out & no matter what mom said she couldn't make me turn against my dad so it has been 33 years since I was born so I sagest mom stop trying to turn me against my dad because it isn't going to happen...Don't get me wrong mom wasn't all bad there were some good memories but too few... With dad my brother & I came first & with mom well after dad left she went all wired...Instead of being a good mother & just dealing with the break up, getting over it & moving on she had only one thing one her mind & that was to turn my down syndrome brother & I against my dad...This will never work with me & she hates me for that because I will not believe & go along with her lies...Even though she has kidnapped my brothers mind she can not kid nap his heart... I do wish I could have a relationship with my mom but how can I when she lies not only about my dad but about me...Just because I wouldn't go along with her lies she decided to make up some lies about me...What type of mother does that...For the life of me I can not even begin to understand how a mother or parent can do that to a child... When I was a little girl & still even now all I wanted was for my mother to just be a mother...I am sorry that dad leaving you cause you such mental disorder that you can not seem to grasp or hold on to reality...But every thing that comes out of your mouth is hurtful lies & how could you expect me to just stand there & let you do it...You could of had my help now that you going through another separation but lying & manipulating are more important to you than your own children...I can see that in your youngest son you already are brain washing him...It is not right no matter how things ended...If you ever decide to get real help maybe then I will talk to you again but if not then I guess we had our last words already...

Wednesday, 23 March 2011

Reply to ques:How did I get aware of PAS

I found the term of what my mother was doing to us searching on the internet for term like: mother brainwashing kids, divorce brainwashing kids, mother lying about father. Those are the types of terms I was searching for because I knew that my mother was lying. I think if a child is lied to early on in life there is a big chance that they will not realize that they were lied to & go on believing the lies. I was lucky that I was old enough to know that my mother was lying. But my brother is not so lucky because he is down syndrome & drinks up every thing my mother tells him. Also not sure on my mother mental condition. Weather she knows that what she is saying is lies or if she really believes her own lies. I choose to not have any thing to do with her. I am not going to try to have a relationship with her because it is not good for me. All she brings me is stress & anxiety so it's better to put that part of my life aside & not even acknowledge her as being my mother. I told my father the same about my brother. Sad but I told him to forget about my brother because my mother will never stop lying & trying to make every one miserable. I told dad that he has my kids "his grand kids" who love him & that is something my mother does not have. It is her loss weather she is mentally ill or not. You can not help some one who does not want help. I will not have her infect our lives with her disease any longer.

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Fighting Back said...

People with borderline personalities end up lying so much that they can’t keep track of their lies and they begin to believe their lies as truth. I have been through it with my ex who uses our children as human shields and her continued lies about me has destroyed my relationship with my kids. As hard as it is to call my kids each week to speak with them as I know they are going to be hostile towards me I still call. I am saddened each time I speak to my kids on the phone and they are hostile to me. As easy as it would be to get mad and show anger to my children I don’t. Instead I tell them that I love them and that I will talk to them next week. I hope that when my children grow they too will be able to see the lies.

fabrizia said...

you may want to read about: Divorce Related Malicious Parent Syndrome by Dr Dr. Ira Turkat

Fighting Back said...

Thank you fabrizia. This was a really good read.

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The Angry Daughter - PAS Parental Alienation Syndrome

The Angry Daughter - PAS Parental Alienation Syndrome