I was born & raised in Saint John New Brunswick Canada...I could not have asked for a better dad, I wouldn't want any other dad...When I was little I remember my mom telling me that I would want to play with her ornaments & dad would let me & I guess I use to break them accidentally of course...Mom would always tell me how he let me play with them & that I broke them...Her good expensive ornaments... Well in grade one is when things went bad for mom & dad, so dad moved out & no matter what mom said she couldn't make me turn against my dad so it has been 33 years since I was born so I sagest mom stop trying to turn me against my dad because it isn't going to happen...Don't get me wrong mom wasn't all bad there were some good memories but too few... With dad my brother & I came first & with mom well after dad left she went all wired...Instead of being a good mother & just dealing with the break up, getting over it & moving on she had only one thing one her mind & that was to turn my down syndrome brother & I against my dad...This will never work with me & she hates me for that because I will not believe & go along with her lies...Even though she has kidnapped my brothers mind she can not kid nap his heart... I do wish I could have a relationship with my mom but how can I when she lies not only about my dad but about me...Just because I wouldn't go along with her lies she decided to make up some lies about me...What type of mother does that...For the life of me I can not even begin to understand how a mother or parent can do that to a child... When I was a little girl & still even now all I wanted was for my mother to just be a mother...I am sorry that dad leaving you cause you such mental disorder that you can not seem to grasp or hold on to reality...But every thing that comes out of your mouth is hurtful lies & how could you expect me to just stand there & let you do it...You could of had my help now that you going through another separation but lying & manipulating are more important to you than your own children...I can see that in your youngest son you already are brain washing him...It is not right no matter how things ended...If you ever decide to get real help maybe then I will talk to you again but if not then I guess we had our last words already...

Wednesday, 14 April 2010

My Mother Has Missed So Much Of My Childrens Lives Because Of Her Lies


Jeff said...


Thanks for your post. I'm really sorry about what you've gone through as a result of parental alienation.

If you want a good book that might help you understand everything, check out A Family's Heartbreak: A Parent's Introduction to Parental Alienation by Mike Jeffries. The knowledge won't take away all the pain you've been through, but maybe it will help dull the sensation a little bit.

Hang in there. I do hope things work out for you with both your parents.

Justcold said...

This is going to sound weird, but I'm sort of just reading about this sort of thing and my mom moved to where you live. In Saint John, New Brunswick. From across the country, in British Columbia.

I find it's really hard to figure out how you feel, with this parent thing because they raised you, but there's this huge sense of betrayal and disgust and confusion. So then it's just easiest to get angry. It's safest too. It protects you from getting messed over more.

It's like, you can't scream at someone to support you. But then you expected them too and when all they do is bring you down, why not scream? Why not?

It's good that you have good things in your life. You have recoded and kept some good memories.

I'm scared because my cousin is going through divorce and I see her children being ignored and shifted around like garbage. I don't know what I can do. I don't even live close.

Chambray Blue said...

My heart breaks for you. My husband had this happen to him and my stepdaughter. The mother turned her completely against him, and she loved him so much before. There was brainwashing, hypnosis and bribery involved. The many photos of their closeness before the alienation testifies to the truth.... now she does not want anything to do with him. She will be 18 in September... still doesn't have a clue as to what happened to her. It's a shame.

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FireCracker! said...

I have a mentally ill mother as well... accepting the fact that she will never see or know, oe ackwowledge reality is a hard pill to swallow. She will never be accountable. I am just thankful I survived and am nothing like her

Kold_Kadavr_flatliner said...

Grrr. How old are you? Seven? Deal with it. My parents were SUPER-HUMAN-DYSFUNCTIONAL. And, YES! I lived through it with a bright, with-it, kick-ass-mind!! So can you. Would you just think of this everytime you get pissed or depressed? Think of a TRI-angle, k? On earth, we're born (bottom of triangle); then, as we grow older, we grow up, like a TRI-angle. Not as a REC-tangle... that would be forever. A triangle converges, n'est-ce pas, ma amie? Why a TRI-angle? Silly, the TRI-nity. We all must face our Divine Judgment, too. All of U.S. Doesn't matter if you don't believe. You're still gonna face it anyway. Thus, we live, we perish, Heaven or Hell. And Jesus is so there for YOU, girl!! What I would strongly choose for you is 2 things: get baptized and have faith. Ta-da! I'll see ya Upstairs for my BIG-OL party-hardy where we'll celebrate our resurrection. Love you. See ya soon. God bless.

Ani said...


My name is Ani and I'm writing to you from the Dr. Phil show in Los Angeles, CA. We're currently working on a show dealing with paternal alienation and I would like to speak with you regarding this show. Please feel free to contact me 323-956-3381.

Thank you for your time and I hope to hear from you soon!


Giovanni Malatacca said...

Thanks for your post. I have a question: how did you get aware of your PAS? I'm married with a woman that has the same problem. From the beginning, she told me that she hates her father. I ignored her problem. Now I know, that it is difficult to live with someone that believes her father never loved her.

"The world is a dangerous place to live; not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don't do anything about it."
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The Angry Daughter - PAS Parental Alienation Syndrome

The Angry Daughter - PAS Parental Alienation Syndrome