I was born & raised in Saint John New Brunswick Canada...I could not have asked for a better dad, I wouldn't want any other dad...When I was little I remember my mom telling me that I would want to play with her ornaments & dad would let me & I guess I use to break them accidentally of course...Mom would always tell me how he let me play with them & that I broke them...Her good expensive ornaments... Well in grade one is when things went bad for mom & dad, so dad moved out & no matter what mom said she couldn't make me turn against my dad so it has been 33 years since I was born so I sagest mom stop trying to turn me against my dad because it isn't going to happen...Don't get me wrong mom wasn't all bad there were some good memories but too few... With dad my brother & I came first & with mom well after dad left she went all wired...Instead of being a good mother & just dealing with the break up, getting over it & moving on she had only one thing one her mind & that was to turn my down syndrome brother & I against my dad...This will never work with me & she hates me for that because I will not believe & go along with her lies...Even though she has kidnapped my brothers mind she can not kid nap his heart... I do wish I could have a relationship with my mom but how can I when she lies not only about my dad but about me...Just because I wouldn't go along with her lies she decided to make up some lies about me...What type of mother does that...For the life of me I can not even begin to understand how a mother or parent can do that to a child... When I was a little girl & still even now all I wanted was for my mother to just be a mother...I am sorry that dad leaving you cause you such mental disorder that you can not seem to grasp or hold on to reality...But every thing that comes out of your mouth is hurtful lies & how could you expect me to just stand there & let you do it...You could of had my help now that you going through another separation but lying & manipulating are more important to you than your own children...I can see that in your youngest son you already are brain washing him...It is not right no matter how things ended...If you ever decide to get real help maybe then I will talk to you again but if not then I guess we had our last words already...

Friday, 24 June 2011

Article From Times Transcript: Alienation a form of abuse

Monday was Parental Alienation Awareness Day. It is the day to recognize that Parental Alienation exists and hurts children worldwide.
PA usually occurs in divorced families but can also occur in intact families. It is when one parent alienates their children from the other parent. It is a process that occurs over time through bad-mouthing, bashing and can eventually be brainwashing in extreme cases.
The children witness role-modelling of disrespect for the alienated parent and learn to mimic these same behaviours. Children that once had healthy, close relationships with the alienated parent may choose to no longer see them. The more time spent with the alienating parent, the more role-modelling that exists to the point of brainwashing.
Parental alienation is a form of emotional, mental and psychological abuse - child abuse. The alienating parent "uses" the children to hurt the alienated parent.
Professionals in this community need to recognize that this form of abuse exists. From judges who turn their backs on the evidence, to social workers, teachers, principals and senior administrators, psychologists, lawyers, doctors, nurses, police and sports organizations, many become involved in alienating one parent from the other parent by listening to the stories of the alienator.
Any adult dealing with children and youth should be aware of this type of child abuse. As professionals and community members you have a responsibility to protect these children. If you would like to educate yourself to this form of child abuse you can visit www.paawareness.org.
GWEN SHUTTLEWORTH

3 comments:

jhlstyle said...

Please...read my blog - http://untilyousayuncle.blogspot.com/

also....about PAS.

I wish you peace.
Julie

jhlstyle said...

Please read my blog about PAS

http://untilyousayuncle.blogspot.com/

I wish you peace...

Karen Loethen said...

OMGOsh, a whole blog on this!

I, too, am the child of parents who played the kids against each other. I'm over fifty and STILL dealing with some of the emotional crap.

In my case, Dad got custody of us in his brainwashing and dishonest way and then proceeded to keep us from our mom for yeeeeeeeears with his false stories and emotional games.
GOSH, hard to talk about, even now.
Dad died a few years ago and his legacy continues to this day.

Anyway, thank you for the blog!

"The world is a dangerous place to live; not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don't do anything about it."
- Albert Einstein -

The Angry Daughter - PAS Parental Alienation Syndrome

The Angry Daughter - PAS Parental Alienation Syndrome